Susan Ducharme Hoben

Choosing the path of a peaceful end-of-life

Dying Well

Dying Well
Our Journey of Love and Loss
Published by Canton Press
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2018 National Indie Excellence Awards Winner
2018 INDIES Book of the Year Awards Winner
2018 American Book Fest Best Book Awards Finalist

My husband’s end-of-life wishes had been formed over a lifetime of watching people die and, just as importantly, watching people live, so when the time had come for hard decisions, he chose quality of life over quantity. It was strangely calming to have a more certain future. The path became clear, the priorities lit in neon. Our time was spent doing what he loved to do, with the people he loved most, being present and savoring every moment.

Bruce died in character, celebrating life, with boundless compassion and no regrets, his sense of humor intact. We had been saying goodbye and easing his path for months, knowing what was coming. These last months were some of the most celebratory, peaceful and intimate we had shared during our 46 years together. We spent a week with our children and grandchildren at a beach house in Florida, sharing all the things we loved to do. His professional colleagues celebrated his life with a party 10 days before he died. We wrote his obituary and planned his memorial service together. Our days were spent cradled in love and friendship.

In response to a growing interest in exploring how we die, many books, including several best sellers, addressed this topic. Those who like Being Mortal, by Dr. Atul Gawande, will find value in this narrative that shows how his premise plays out for a single patient and his family. Fans of When Breath Becomes Air, by Paul Kalanithi, will appreciate a widow’s perspective on how dying well can ease the transition of those left behind.
290 pages | Paperback, Kindle, e-book and Audio | March 30, 2018